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Monday, May 11, 2009

Weddings Do Not Equal Gymboree

We requested no children at our wedding. Not that they always ruin things, but the potential for disaster is certainly there. Some family members were a little upset at first, but we were getting married in a historic property and opted to tell people "It's a grown up party and will be very late and we will be serving alcohol and its just too much of a liability to invite children"...making only one exception for one of my bridesmaids who had a newborn and was coming in from out of town.

I believe that it is the couple's preferrence, our's happened to be no and I think it is ridiculous that a guest would argue that. I've been to weddings before where kids screamed the whole time, messing up the video soundtrack...at another, a nine year old girl decided that she wanted cake before it was time to cut it and stuck her hand it AND knocked it on the floor. How bad would you have felt if that was your kid? It could happen to anyone, I don't care how well-behaved you think your kids are.

People spend a lot of money on weddings and want them to go well. Knowing that at least those types of situations could be avoided, we had no problem saying no. If people still bring their kids, knowing that they are not welcome, they should be asked to leave...Same with plus ones who weren't invited, but that's a whole different story. It's your party and you're paying for it and it should be how you want it. If they can't oblige, maybe they shouldn't come either.

It makes me kind of sad for those parents who can't stand to be away from their kids for ONE night. Do you not have any identity away from them? We get it, you're a mother, but seriously one night apart would probably be best for both of you. Take the request with grace and hire a sitter. You don't see me cutting in line in front of your kid for the ball pit at Chuck E. Cheese.

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3 Comments:

Blogger LoriLoo310 said...

As a mother, I would prefer not to bring my child to a wedding - even if kids are welcome. If I couldn't find a babysitter, I would send my best regards and not attend.

And really, how much fun can you have at a wedding if your main focus is to keep your child quiet, make sure they don't destroy the cake or flowers, or keep them awake past their bedtime (=cranky!)?

We also requested no children at the wedding because we had a seated dinner and had to pay per seat (no matter how old the attendee). There was no way I was going to go $5000 over budget for everyone to bring their kids!

Oh wedding etiquette ... I could go on and on. And why do people think it's unnecessary to RSVP?

5/11/2009 3:03 PM  
Blogger Brandi said...

I totally don't know you but I am with you 100%. I attended a wedding where the kids took the cameras off of every table and took stupid pics all night. I would have been pissed to develop those cameras. I'd never dream of brining my kid... unless they were in the wedding, and then i'd probably ship him off to a babysitter for the reception. People just don't get it. Ugh. Sorry!!

6/04/2009 1:31 PM  
Blogger Travis & Jeri Tidmore said...

Oh man...I would love to get a babysitter and go to a wedding child free!! I agree with Lori...if I had to entertain my toddler during the wedding what is the point in even going to the wedding since I won't be able to enjoy it. I understand newborns since they are quite dependant on mom especially if nursing.

jeri

6/07/2009 6:02 PM  

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